Tuesday, December 09, 2008

~ MOMMY-ITIS ~

It is no secret that Mia and I are extremely close. I always dreamed of having a daughter, doing girly things with her and dressing her up; however more importantly I wanted us to have a special relationship ~ like I do with my mom.



Mia is crazy about me (and the feeling is mutual :) . Where ever I am, she is. If I go upstairs, she goes upstairs. If I have to go out . . . well, she'd better be coming all all hell breaks loose around here! Most of the time we do go everywhere together, but sometimes that is not possible. Mommy needs to see her friends (once in a blue moon) or like over the weekend, I dared to have our neighborhood holiday party. Yup, poor Mia was not invited :)



I used to sneak out, just to avoid the tears, even though I knew it wasn't right. What happened was that since I was the one going out and daddy was home, she takes it out on daddy. Days later, she would not let him get close. If he did, she would say "mommy, mommy, mommy" with panic in her voice and run to me. It was sad, I felt badly and now I tell her I am going out.


As I was getting ready for our party Saturday night, she saw me putting on my dress and jewerly. So, she had to put on her Belle dress and shoes ~ this mommys dream :)



Shortly after this picture was taken, we had to leave (my parents are the only ones we allow to watch the kids - so it is not a stranger babysitting). I calmly told Mia and the boys we were going out and to give us kisses and hugs. My poor girl had tears streaming down her face, crying and screaming; and the worst part was....she was crawling behind me on the floor calling my name! My heart was breaking and it took me a while to compose myself!

*The good news is that when I called a short time later, she was fine.

The good-byes are just torture for this mommy!



8 comments:

Barbara said...

You both look great!!! You have to love Mia's "girly girl ways"...always the princess! I wish I could tell you that it gets better lol! I know that at some point it will be easier, but when is the big question!

Dawn said...

Oh bless your heart...I completely understand! I think I have more withdrawl than Lucy...she is my little sidekick, and I just LOVE having her with me all the time. We have a holiday party this saturday, and our friends told us we have to bring Lucy so we will come:)'

Vicky said...

awww I even have tears in my eyes reading your post. I remember those days when I couldnt leave the house without Emily freaking out !! (I kinda miss them)...
So sweet little Mia...

Anonymous said...

I'm sure it's not easy to leave her, that's for sure..how heartbreaking to say the least...you look great heading out to your party..
Aunt M :)

Colleen said...

Oh Joanne, I bet that is so hard for you to leave her so upset! It's good to hear she is just fine with your parents!:)Faith never did show any of that separation anxiety. I use to be concerned that she never did, but I guess all children are different? Like you I never really left her though.
I hope you had a great time at your party and didn't worry too much!:)

Anna Grace`s Jie Jie said...

How sweet!! My sister has the same attachment to my Mom and also to me :)

Daniella said...

Merry Christmas to you and your family Jo!
So glad Ms. Mia calmed down after a while :)

Sharon said...

OMGosh! Just this morning, I was trying to compose this same post in my mind and I couldn't come up with an explanation that didn't make me seem too awful! You did a beautiful job and I think my guilty heart was meant to come over here and read this today so thank you so much for sharing!! I had to leave Bailey (with Britton and Barrington) for the first time to go to the company Christmas party. I tried to take her but they layed down the law! I snuck out and then she bonded onto Britton for the day. Now its okay but I worried. I wouldn't change our closeness but it is tricky when the world gets in the way. I think you are a wonderful mommy!!!!